Before talking about the “Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway Summary” let’s first discuss the book’s author Susan Jeffers Ph.D. Susan Jeffers is considered one of the top self-help authors in the world. The Times named Susan “THE QUEEN OF SELF-HELP” and ranked her alongside such influential gurus as Nelson Mandela, The Dalai Lama and Deepak Chopra. Her first book Feel the fear and do it anyway launched her career as a best-selling author, and after it, she has writer seventeen more books and audio programs about relationships, personal growth and fear which includes Embracing Uncertainty, Life is Huge! and The Feel the Fear Guide to Lasting Love. Her books are available in over 100 countries and have been translated into 37 languages.
In Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway Summary, you will learn how to stop being negative, how you can stop your negative thinking patterns and how you can re-educate your mind to think more positively. In this book there are various concrete techniques to turn passivity into assertiveness, this book also shares 10 step positive thinking process and also teach you about how to risk a little every day and how you can turn your decisions into no lose situations.
let’s begin with Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway Summary:
Chapter 1: What Are You Afraid of and Why?
According to author there are three levels of fears, and all of them come down to the essence level, which you should aim to address
First level: The Surface
The author says fear in this level involved in an external situation, for example getting into a relationship, going back to school or stage fear, or changing career.
Second level: The Ego
In this level fear is involved with our own ego, this level of fear happens under our inner state of mind for example rejections, failures, disapproval etc.;
Third level: Essence level
Author says that this level is the essence of all our fears; we can simply describe this level of fear by “I CAN’T HANDLE IT.” Author says that all our fear come down to the fear of I can’t handle whatever life will bring you, and this is the very important fear which we must address, how you can handle or can address it, then to answer this how will tell you the quote of this book which says,
“ALL YOU HAVE TO DO TO DIMINISH YOUR FEAR IS TO DEVELOP MORE TRUST IN YOUR ABILITY TO HANDLE WHATEVER COMES YOUR WAY IN LIFE.”
Chapter 2: Can’t You Make it Go Away?
Author says that you must keep these 5 universal truths of fear in your mind, you must thoroughly memorize it, you should never forget these 5 universal truths of fear, never forget it because it will help you to deal with your fears, those 5 universal truths are:
- My fear will never go away as long as I continue to grow.
- The only way I can get rid of fear of doing something is by going out and do it.
- The only way I can feel better about myself is to go out and do it.
- Not only I am going to experience fear whenever I am on unfamiliar territory but so is everyone else
- Pushing through fear is less frightening then living with the underlying fear that comes from a feeling of helplessness
Chapter 3: From Pain to Power
Author of this book tells us that in order to deal with our fears, we need to change our position or mentality from pain to power, because when we stay in the position of pain we feel helpless, depressed and eventually paralyzed, we fail to take any action, but when we shift to power we feel like we have a choice, this feeling makes us feel excited and help us to take action, now here question comes how do we switch, how we can shift from pain to power?
For this author has mentioned two points:
First SWITCH FROM PAIN TO POWER VOCABULARY:
Author says that our vocabulary determines our actions, it’s a self-fulfilling prediction, for example when we stay in pain, then our pain vocabulary will involve, I can’t, I shouldn’t, it’s not my fault, it’s a big problems, life is a mess or struggle, I hope, if only, it’s terrible, etc. whereas when you shift to power then your power vocabulary will involve, I can, I should, I will, I am responsible, it’s an opportunity, I know etc.
Second EXPAND YOUR COMFORT ZONE EACH DAY:
Author says that you must try to do something each day which makes you uncomfortable, take small risk every day for example, if you have fear to talk in public then do participate in public programs, talk to strangers, or if you fear to express your feelings, then talk to your family tell them about how much you care for them etc., do something which moves you out of comfort zone, you can plan the risk which you will be going to take tomorrow, visualize what all positive things can happen if you face your fear and take small risk.
Chapter 4: Whether You Want It or Not It’s Yours
Author says that when you reclaim your power, then it means you take responsibility, author says that we are responsible for our actions, feelings and emotions, author lists out 7 ways on how you can reclaim your power:
- Never blame external environment or force for your bad mood or feelings about life, nothing external can control your feelings actions or emotions, it is your responsibility and only you can control it.
- Never blame yourself for not being in control, you are trying to switch from pain to power, it means you are doing your best to be in control.
Chapter 5: Pollyanna Rides Again
Pollyanna means- a person who always find something positive in every situation. This chapter starts with Author asking How many times you’ll have heard people saying to you Don’t Be Pollyanna? how many times people have tried to put you down with these words (don’t be pollyanna) when you were trying to look brighter side of things? later Jeffer shares her personal experience when she was having dinner with her friends, Jeffery was trying her best to make her friend see the positive side of something which she was fervently viewing as negative, While Jeffery was explaining suddenly her friend told her, that you are beginning to sound like Pollyanna, To which Author blurted out, and said “What’s so terrible about Pollyanna, anyway? What’s wrong with feeling good about life despite the obstacles in your way?
What’s wrong with looking at the sun instead of seeing gloom and doom? What’s wrong with trying to see good in everything? Nothing is wrong with it!” Jeffery asserted. she further added incredulously, “why would anyone resist thinking that way?”
Jeffery further says that positive thinking is one of the most difficult of all concepts to get across to people. When she used to present her ideas on positive thinking in her workshops and classes, many of her students respond immediately with “Oh, that’s not realistic!” When she used to question them about what makes negative thinking more realistic, they fail to give her an answer. There is an automatic assumption that negative is realistic and positive is unrealistic. Upon inspection, this is pure madness.
It is reported that more than 90% of what we worry about never happens. That means that our negative worries have less than a 10% chance of being correct. If this is so, isn’t being positive more realistic than being negative? Think about your own life, Jeffery says that most of what you worry about never happens. So are you being realistic when you worry all the time? No! If you think about it, the important issue is not which is more realistic, but rather, “Why to be miserable when you can be happy?” If being a Pollyanna creates a happier world for you and those around you, why hesitate for one more moment?
Chapter 6: When “They” don’t want you to grow
This Chapter starts with Author saying that The gloom and the fog are beginning to lift, you find your life more manageable from the time you have adopted pollyanna attitude, as you put newfound positiveness in your actions you find your life and everything changing in a positive way, but suddenly you find that something is amiss with people in your life, you will find that some significant important people of your life don’t seem to like the changes, even though your earlier life was a total mess and wreck, this makes you confused this makes you think like what is happening?
This happens because people become accustomed to interacting with you in a certain way and when that pattern breaks when that interaction pattern breaks then for that people get upset obviously.
But you need to understand and should keep in mind that no matter what your goal is to move from pain to power, should understand and notice is your significant people helping you in your growth or they are dragging you down, do they support you in a right way? do you feel good around them or do you feel contaminated? do they feel happy about your growth, or not? do you prefer staying around them or you should change and when you get an answer to these questions negatively then you have to make certain changes in your life in order to move from fear to power.
When you become positive about life, then you will find difficult to stay around people who are negative and upset about everything, Author says that Negativity is contagious, and you walk away feeling lousy after spending time in the company of a negative person. Positiveness is contagious as well, and spending time with a positive person makes you feel as though you can sprout wings and fly. Soon you’ll become discerning. Energy is tangible, and as you become more aware, you will “feel” if a person is positive or negative . . . and you’ll be automatically drawn to the more positive. The people in your life are a good indicator of where you are operating on an emotional level. Like attracts like. As you begin to change, you will automatically draw and be drawn to a different kind of person.
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